On Self-Confidence

Outfit Details: Glasses: Coastal// Top: Tie for First Top in Lilac from ModCloth (on sale!)// Skirt: Fun and Games Skirt from ModCloth (on sale!)// Shoes: bait footwear
 
A few months ago, I wanted so desperately to be able to take pictures of myself and not feel super self-conscious. When my lovely boyfriend was snapping my pic the other day, I felt that self-consciousness setting in slowly because I couldn't get a shot I liked. Being body positive is really important to me and definitely hits home because as a girl who was never "thin" by any definition, I always lacked the self-confidence to be comfortable with myself.
 
I am lucky to have family, a boyfriend, and friends who love and accept me the way I am, no matter if I'm 20 lbs heavier or lighter than I am right now. Participating in social media has exposed me to the love (and hate) that others are just waiting to give you. I ignore the rude people who have their own agenda in making others feel bad about their self-image, because my life will not be lessened by words strung together by some self-proclaimed keyboard warrior. I have found some seriously inspiring people through instagram, ModCloth's Style Gallery, pinterest, twitter, etcetc, that have helped boost my confidence. But, I've come to realize that it is my choice whether or not I feel good about myself. 
 
One of my biggest "me" projects this summer will be really focusing on getting rid of that stupid naysayer inside myself that instantly singles out the 10 things I hate about my body in shorts. Rather, I will find something that I love about myself and say it until it sinks in. Sometimes we are our own worst enemy, and I'm done being mine.
 
 

PS- This little bunny was laying right behind me in the brush while I was taking pictures, once I noticed him, he sat up and basically posed for the camera!
 
 
I hope you all have a safe + long holiday weekend!
xoxo

10 comments:

  1. i love this post because i can completely relate!! i haven't posted an ootd picture since around march or so because i've just been feeling kind of bleh about my appearance. and even then when i would post pictures i would always have really awful quality because i didn't like the way that i looked. i think it's awesome that you're trying to focus on being body positive, and loving yourself! Like you said it's YOUR choice on whether you choose to love yourself or not it doesn't matter what anybody else says!

    hopefully i'll build up the courage in the next few days/weeks to start posting more pictures! it definitely helps to see you being able to be confident enough to post pictures too (:

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    1. It's just one of those things I guess that everyone has to tell themselves...'I may not always look good in EVERY photo I take, but at least it's better than hiding behind the camera'. I look forward to seeing your adorable self :) You can do it!

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  2. I hear you, grrrl! It's so terrible that so many young women feel self conscious about body image, us included, but we've been ingrained to hate our bodies all our lives if we didn't look the right way.

    I'm glad you're aiming for a body positive perspective. More women should try the same.

    PS There are some amazing plus-sized bloggers that inspire me everyday, like Margie Plus and Nadia Aboulhosn. Definitely check them out if you aren't following them already!

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    1. Thank you! it's something that definitely needs to be changed everywhere and cannot be said enough until it sinks in the mind of every person who has ever felt inferior just for being themselves.
      Those bloggers are super inspiring! I love them both so much because they are really unique and have that " I don't give a f***" attitude about how anyone else perceives them.

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  3. This is an awesome post. I know its tough to put ourselves out there as bloggers, luckily I've never received any bad comments but I know the courage that it takes to take ootd pictures and posting them on the internet for all to see. I hate scrolling through numerous outfit photos only to see the horribly unphotogenic ones, its not always a confidence booster. Unfortunately self doubt is something that everyone deals with and when I have those days my boyfriend says "be nicer to yourself" and I really think thats great advice because like Helllooooo…. why was I basically being mean to myself right there! Ya know theres enough negativity in the world and I don't need to add that to my own self thought. But as anything else there are good days and there are bad days.Also as p.s. I almost bought that skirt to wear to my nephews carnival themed birthday but backed out and seeing it so cute on you is making me regret it…. Whats your opinion on it cause I know mod cloth can be hit or miss!

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    1. Yes! You're right, because we can be so mean to ourselves and we would never say those things about someone else and its like...what the heck is wrong with me?? Part of the reason why I do outfit posts is to build my own self-esteem because I want there to be less "I don't like myself" days versus days where I do like myself.

      aw, a carnival themed party?! that's such a cute theme for a bday party! It's really comfortable and flowy, there's not much I would change about it because it's such a fun pattern! The fit is spot on, and it doesn't have any stretch so it won't get bigger in the waist as the day goes on... I think it's still on sale for super cheap (for modcloth lol) ? You should get it! we'll be twinsies- hahah.

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  4. This is a great post, Angela! You're very right. Some people think, "If people say nice things about me, I'll feel better about myself," or "When I have a boyfriend, then I'll feel pretty," or things like that. But you're right; that self image approval has to come from inside, knowing who you are (and, I would add, knowing who God says you are and how much he values you).
    Not to mention, pretty much all women deal with negative thoughts, no matter what size. I've always been very petite for my age (and by that I mean quite short), so I have struggled with feeling like my short, thinner frame isn't "womanly" enough are that I'm "just too short." Everybody wants what they don't have, huh?
    This is great, and I'll be following your blog now!

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    1. Thank you! You're so kind+ you're so right! It is so important for everyone to find out who they really are before they run and put a "value" on themselves. And yes, always imperative to remember God and how we are all His children and beautiful no matter what, that type of unconditional love is so amazing...We should all keep that in mind!

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  5. Saw you on Sammi's Soubrette Brunette page and came over. A great and honest post!

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  6. I saw your blog via Soubrette Brunette, and I absolutely love it! I especially love this post because I feel like every single girl can relate to it! It is always so much easier to see the good in others- and so hard to remember the beauty in yourself. I am constantly finding myself using 'negative body talk'. That is something that I too have been trying to change. I want my three little sisters to know that they are beautiful, and the words that I use to describe myself are the words that they will begin to use. I am going to follow your example and forget the 10 negative things I see and just focus on the positive! Perhaps one day I will see 10 positive things instantly! Thank you for this post!!

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